things to talk about on first dates

[Adam]

I also think in the 'courting stage' its good think healthy about keeping options open. The more girls you get in your life, the even more girls you get in your life. Just need to get with the rhythm of talking and taking out those that you fancy and it'll happen with the right one. This is the easy part, next is commitment and the rules. But that'll be another chapter (I hope)

[NicRN77]

What are you doing for date #3?

[Bob]

i was thinking improv boston? there's a show that looks good

[Guy Incognito]

Originally Posted by Bob

i was thinking improv boston? there's a show that looks good

obviously you are big enough to make your own decisions about this kind of thing but wont that mean you two just sitting there, watching something, obviously there will some interaction but what about doing something where you actually do something together. i'm not sure what though. tell me to cock off bob if you like, i just thought it was a bit early for just going somewhere together. have you spoke with her about what you are gonna do at all?

[NicRN77]

Originally Posted by Bob

i was thinking improv boston? there's a show that looks good

Cool! I had a date once at the Improv Asylum on Hanover and it was a great first date. I actually went there again with a friend this weekend. Hilarious!

[hpdrifter]

See that's what I mean, that's something I would enjoy but almost never do.

Probably not that expensive either.

[Bob]

ok so that's 2 for and one against. and the 2 for are women. one of whom lives here

so.....good idea...? i had thought about the whole "it's just sitting and watching" thing but i don't know we both like comedy and they have a full bar and we've already done a bar and a restaurant (followed by another bar) and it was fun but i feel like i should think of something different

[yeahwho]

It will be even cooler if you heckle the comedian, even if he's hilarious do an obligatory loud yawn and one shout out of "Boring".

Tell her that guy is bullshit, I'm way funnier.

Spill your drink.

Pee your pants.


your welcome in advance bob

[NicRN77]

I think the Improv thing is fabulous! They get the audience involved so it won't be like you're just sitting there. I really say go for this idea. Did you mention it to her already? Did she seem keen on the idea?

Tomorrow night I'm going to see this lecture on jazz and genes at the Museum of Science...but that might totally bore your date!

[Guy Incognito]

Originally Posted by Bob

ok so that's 2 for and one against. and the 2 for are women. one of whom lives here

so.....good idea...? i had thought about the whole "it's just sitting and watching" thing but i don't know we both like comedy and they have a full bar and we've already done a bar and a restaurant (followed by another bar) and it was fun but i feel like i should think of something different

Originally Posted by NicRN77

I think the Improv thing is fabulous! They get the audience involved so it won't be like you're just sitting there. I really say go for this idea. Did you mention it to her already? Did she seem keen on the idea?

well that does sound a bit better than i thought. i was just worried you hadnt considered the sitting there thing and you had, should have given you more credit robert. Like you said Nic is local and thats probly best recommendation, i still would advise running it by the girl first and have a backup option ready.

[RobMoney$]

Yeah, I'm sure she'd be much happier just hanging at your place playing "Scene it" with you and your passive-aggressive roommates.


Do the Comedy Show, you can always go for beers after if you think there wasn't enough interaction.

[yeahwho]

Originally Posted by NicRN77

Tomorrow night I'm going to see this lecture on jazz and genes at the Museum of Science...but that might totally bore your date!

Wow what a coinkydink, bob is going to have a lecture on jizz in his jeans tomorrow night

[Bob]

Originally Posted by NicRN77

I think the Improv thing is fabulous! They get the audience involved so it won't be like you're just sitting there. I really say go for this idea. Did you mention it to her already? Did she seem keen on the idea?

nah i hadn't thought of an idea when i called her on sunday, i'm gonna run it by her tonight and hope she likes it because if she doesn't i still haven't thought of a backup

i've lived here for over 3 years now and i still don't know where anything is, it's kind of nerve wracking honestly

[rirv]

Regardless of the lack of interaction, comedy shows are great to take women too. She will be laughing and happy and will associate the laughter and happiness with going on a date with you. Then you can talk about the comedy show over some beers, recite one of the funny jokes, she'll laugh, you touch her knee, she smiles at you and you kiss.

[Guy Incognito]

Originally Posted by Bob

nah i hadn't thought of an idea when i called her on sunday, i'm gonna run it by her tonight and hope she likes it because if she doesn't i still haven't thought of a backup

i've lived here for over 3 years now and i still don't know where anything is, it's kind of nerve wracking honestly

is it a rule that you have to come up with the ideas, she might have a good suggestion.

i dunno, is asking the girl what she wants to a third date no-no?

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Guy Incognito

is it a rule that you have to come up with the ideas, she might have a good suggestion.

i dunno, is asking the girl what she wants to a third date no-no?

honestly i was kind of hoping that she'd have something in mind because i made the plans last time and i was hoping it would be one of those "now it's your turn" kind of things but apparently it doesn't work that way, i need to be a man or something. i'm not used to that, it's too weird

[Guy Incognito]

Originally Posted by Bob

honestly i was kind of hoping that she'd have something in mind because i made the plans last time and i was hoping it would be one of those "now it's your turn" kind of things but apparently it doesn't work that way, i need to be a man or something. i'm not used to that, it's too weird

well try and think of a back up , dont bombard the girl with ideas tho, that might freak her out. i still think you should put the ball in her court, you never know she might say lets get bollocksed and then go back to mine (thats hers not mine ,you might wake my kids up). i doubt she would say that though.

this thread is still brilliant even though i have posted too much in it.

[NicRN77]

Originally Posted by Guy Incognito

is it a rule that you have to come up with the ideas, she might have a good suggestion.

i dunno, is asking the girl what she wants to a third date no-no?

This is exactly what I was going to ask. I'm a take-charge kind of girl and would make a suggestion. I always feel like the first date is kinda the guy's responsibility but future dates anyone should throw out ideas.

I've also been to a date at the MFA http://mfa.org/ I think its a good date place because you can walk around and make fun of the art. You could take her across the street after for a beer here http://squealingpigboston.com/ or just up the street there's great pizza and huge selection of beers here http://www.thepenguinpizza.com/

[Guy Incognito]

Originally Posted by Bob

honestly i was kind of hoping that she'd have something in mind because i made the plans last time and i was hoping it would be one of those "now it's your turn" kind of things but apparently it doesn't work that way, i need to be a man or something. i'm not used to that, it's too weird

Originally Posted by NicRN77

This is exactly what I was going to ask. I'm a take-charge kind of girl and would make a suggestion. I always feel like the first date is kinda the guy's responsibility but future dates anyone should throw out ideas.

bob who actually said you need to be a man about this. if it was her then fine you suggest the place but she might be thinking "hey i wanted to go here or do this".

[b i o n i c]

suggest a couple of things (think!) ask her for a coupla things she might be in the mood for

[Bob]

she was very excited about the idea! and we're getting dinner beforehand and she picked the place since it's in her neighborhood and i don't know anything in it (it almost sounded like she had it picked out in advance or something) so that's cool

so yeah she appears to still like me, i was just being neurotic. i think i am going to just go ahead and never look at her profile ever again, no good can come of that

[Documad]

Never tell her about this place. You've never even heard of the beastie boys.

[Bob]

but what if she asks me what i do with my free time? i'll have no answer!

yeah obviously i'm not telling her about this place. my favorite band is radiohead. i spend my free time blogging about radiohead. no you cannot read my blogs about radiohead

[lolkat]

dick wellington

[b i o n i c]

no, you're "not into" and dont "get" internet "blogging" and "stuff"

[yeahwho]

I always get instantly happy when somebody brings up the Beastie Boys....

I mean are they from like New York or something?

[ms.peachy]

I just want you all to know I am printing this out and using it nearly verbatim for dialogue for my first novel. When the rights are optioned to Hollywood, who do you see playing you in the film?

[Bob]

anyone but shia lebouef. maybe a culkin

[insertnamehere]

dimitri martin

[mickill]

I've always seen Don Cheadle playing the role of Bob in the BBMB movie.