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11-20-2009, 09:08 PM
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11-20-2009, 09:31 PM
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The naughty lass from sure shots is a drunken mistake waiting to happen.
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#723
11-20-2009, 10:00 PM
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SEX!
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11-21-2009, 03:29 AM
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disclaimer: i'm about to say some really lame shit and i know that it's lame and shitty and as a healthy 25 year old with a normal upbringing i really should be handling the fact that a girl i met on the internet and dated four times rejected me a little better but, well, fuck, it's me, and it hasn't even been 24 hours yet and i really do feel compelled to air this lame shit out somewhere and what better place to do it than here. also i'm pretty drunk (i went out with friends and that was fun while it lasted but now i'm alone in my room on the internet again and the lameness is creeping back)
the more i think about it (and at this point i really can't stop thinking about it, as much as i'd love to), the more i'm sure that i fucked it up by changing my status to "seeing someone". i fucked the whole thing up with a single mouse click (well, three or four technically but that's not important). everything up until then was going really well and only getting better and better and then as soon as i did that she doesn't call me back for a week and says "i'm not sure i'm ready for a relationship, let's just be friends". that was it, that must have been it, what else could it have been? all i had to do was not click that stupid button (well, those three or four stupid buttons technically but that's still not important) and i bet this wouldn't have happened just yet and it sucks, because i really did like this girl. she was nerdy and goofy and cute and she didn't care that i was nerdy and goofy and boring; i could just be myself around her and she'd still laugh and smile in the cutest and most genuine way and she made me feel confident for a change, you know? but then i clicked those stupid buttons and fucked it up i dunno. chances are that ultimately it didn't matter; if she wasn't interested in a relationship now, she probably wouldn't be interested in a relationship later. and if i'm being honest, i did want one with her eventually (i don't know if you could tell). this conflict was bound to happen sooner or later. sooner was the better choice i guess. then again, if i hadn't fucked it up so soon, maybe she'd have grown to like me more and become interested in one. or maybe not. or maybe i'm wrong from the beginning and she dumped me for some other reason. maybe she decided she liked someone else. maybe she dumped me because i'm unemployed. maybe she didn't like my fashion sense. fuck knows. doesn't matter i guess. it's over regardless. at any rate, i've learned an important lesson. i just wish i'd learned it with someone a little lamer because goddamn, i did quite like her. she did seem to be sort of one of a kind. doesn't matter, i'll probably get hit by a car anyway
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#730
11-21-2009, 05:39 AM
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Bob, I'm sorry. Whatever happened, you learned things by just getting out there and practicing. It's poor manners for her to send an e message instead of returning the phone call. I suppose that even though she was gutless it was better for her to tell you that she wasn't interested than to back away without saying anything at all.
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#731
11-21-2009, 06:39 AM
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I'm really sorry it didn't work out with this girl. You're totally allowed to wallow in it for a bit. If you were a chick I'd tell you to go out and buy a pint of Ben & Jerry's and eat it in your bathrobe on the sofa watching, I dunno, something with Sandra Bullock in it or something, but I don't think it works the same way for guys. Maybe buy a big meatball sub and eat it on the sofa in your underpants watching Swingers, that's all I got.
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#732
11-21-2009, 07:06 AM
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If the froggy come up-a with his
Satchel in his hand, Then he reaches in the front and Dump a mile of sand Across the rug, along the hall Up to the umbrella stand That you've been watchin' all the time Watchin' all the time And if a forest grows up From the dirt on the floor, Then the frog with the satchel had just Dumped beside the door. You just startin' to get worried, You ain't going out no more And it's confusin' to your mind ---- Just consider this: You can be scared when it gets too real You can be scared when it gets too real But you should be diggin' it While it's happening. (yes!) But you should be diggin' it While it's happening 'cause it just might be A one-shot deal You can be lost And you can wanna be found. But keep an eye on that frog Whenever he jump around Just keep a-watchin' him You oughta be watchin' him Just keep a-watchin' him You wanna be watchin' him And see if he has brought along A little bag for you, rant! I think this is talking about tripping, but a few lines are relevant - you should be diggin' it while it's happening because it might just be a one shot deal. In other words, you had some hand holding and some kissing, made a connection, had a good time. Yeah you might have made a mistake, but overall you've come out the end of this with more positives than negatives. Go get 'em tiger!
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#733
11-21-2009, 07:08 AM
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#734
11-21-2009, 07:13 AM
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Shawty had them Apple Bottom Jeans (Jeans)
Boots with the fur (With the fur) The whole club was lookin at her She hit the flo (She hit the flo) Next thing you know Shawty got low low low low low low low low
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#735
11-21-2009, 08:20 AM
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It might of been the mouse click (or the three or four of them) that did it but to me, it sounds like an ex-boyfriend might of made an appearance again or something. When you have two guys or girls in your life sometimes its best to tell them both lets be friends until you work shit out. I'm sure most of us have done it and like others have said, people disappear for a variety of reasons all the time.
Like rirv said, you made a connection and had a few good nights out, you might of had to pay for a few things but experience is more valuable than money you spent. But yeah, it hurts.
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#736
11-21-2009, 08:33 AM
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Bob, you are 25 and still have plenty of dating to do. Its too bad this thing with this chick didn't work out, but that's the dating world. I'm in agreement with the others...maybe an ex or something came back into the picture. I really think it has nothing to do with the fact you changed your status to "seeing someone."
You are allowed to wallow in this for a few days...but things will turn out ok. Volunteer! It will get your mind off things and you will meet some new people!
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#737
11-21-2009, 08:37 AM
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planetary, i think your were plus one on the lows
Bob, yes you are going to feel shit and i know this might seem harsh but its wasted energy thinking about what might have been or that she seemed really suited to you. To cut a long story short, i went thru a purple patch with the ladies in my twenties but made mistakes everytime and then had a really bad experience and got hung up on what happened for best part of two years. i then spent a long time dwelling on all my mistakes, i did learn a lot but when i finally decided to stop worrying about it then things started happening again. what i'm trying to say is you know what you did wrong (and that click wasnt the only factor in all this, some of it you couldnt have done anything about) but just take each game as it comes, dont over analyse what happened too much as time will pass you by and you may lose all the confidence you have gained from this experience. i think she seemed suited because you met on a site where people are matched, sure you liked a lot about this girl but it really doesnt mean she's the only one who you are gonna hit it off with. People have said the situation might not be totally dead in the water and thats possible but you musnt compromise yourself and avoid other situations in the hope that it might. i hope all that made sense and was helpful
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#738
11-21-2009, 08:50 AM
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I spent 2 years at university pining over a girl who I thought was 'the one'. She led me on time and time again only to keep saying "I don't want a relationship right now" etc. In those 2 years I passed up so many opportunities with women that I lost count. The worst part was that this girl got pregnant, the dad left her, and then she looked me up on myspace and tried to weasel her way back into my life again (inviting me round to her place etc). I guess I was always a 'Plan B' to her. To be honest, I'm more than glad that I avoided that one.
Don't cling on to the hope of this girl coming back to you, Bob - because it might never happen, and you'll be missing out on some good times. Go out and have fun with your mates and put her out of your mind - before you know it, someone else even more amazing will come into your life
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#739
11-21-2009, 09:16 AM
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When I think about it, having my heart broken a few times has done me the world of good. Its good to be rejected and if you're like me you get rejected more times that you get accepted. But it becomes easier, first few times suck the hardest but you start to bounce back quicker after that. And with all that, dating gets easier to.
And yeah, volunteer right now. Doing something different will help.
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#740
11-21-2009, 09:25 AM
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Once again my life motto rings true: Bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks.
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#741
11-21-2009, 11:10 AM
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11-21-2009, 02:18 PM
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anyway i already feel a little better. i actually (drunkenly) messaged a girl on okcupid last night just cuz and she responded with "you seem cool but your name's a dealbreaker, i know too many bobs already. good luck!" didn't hurt at all, i'm getting better at this rejection thing already
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11-21-2009, 02:31 PM
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11-21-2009, 02:38 PM
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#746
11-21-2009, 02:52 PM
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nah i'm joking who knows. strange girl found on internet dating website, updates at 11
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#747
11-21-2009, 03:21 PM
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And especially in america where names of people seem to be pretty unimaginative and are named after their parents. Or so it seemed to me.
But you could reply. You don't know this Bob, and some might say because of that you don't know any Bob... or something.
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#749
11-21-2009, 03:56 PM
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You should text her back, and say "Fine, you can call 'Big Daddy'".
OK, changing your status could have scared her off, however, if she couldn't tell that you are the kind of guy that doesn't want to play games, then she's not right for you. The right girl would have saw that move as you being the genuine guy that you are, and would have understood. Oh well, the world is a big place, and there more women to meet Bob. What about the lil'mama in the family albums sammich day pic? P.S. Also maybe you should give yourself a cool nickname Edge, Rio, or Mystery.
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11-21-2009, 04:49 PM
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